I want my Monkey and Sheep Back

[Trixi]

Hey BP-
I totally "get" that people can change. And they DO change. But they only change once they want to. If they do it to appease someone else it won't stick.

Mostly, I just wanted you to step out of the situation a bit. Thinking about whether or not some other woman would put up with his bad behavior is a red flag to me. Like I said before, it makes me say "why would YOU put up with the behavior?"

Okay, so near the end he said he would go to counseling. That's great. But, for now, he isn't interested in pursuing that. This is YOUR time to stretch your wings, find yourself again. Break the patterns.

If you guys do reconcile, do you want to go back to what it was? Have you read any of the co-dependent books? Those might be good. Sort of goes hand in hand with the boundaries books.

For now, you sound like you are making lots of progress- good job.