First Timer

[wolverine1997]

Sandi, I gotta reply to your comments. First, I'm saying something about the rudenes because it has not always been this way. She doesn't talk to other people the same way. I don't think that it is too much to ask of a person to recognize your existence when they walk into the house or a room by saying hello or by not hanging up on you when you get off the phone. And her tone is diffinetly an irritated one.

She has always been somewhat inconsiderate at times and when she has been I usually overlook it but will say something when it escalates.

I might be nit-picking but am I supposed to continue to allow her to continually walk all over me and become more and more rude and inconsiderate without saying something? Yesterday you said that I was passive-agressive. Doesn't not speaking up when things bother you lead to more passive-aggressive behavior?

And yes, I will try to always admit when I mess up or am wrong. But I believe that throughout this whole ordeal I have been the one that has been wronged the vast majority of the time. I have put up with sooooooo much because of the situation that we have gone through.

Now some of what you have said has some truth to it. I am not a perfectionist but my wife has always said that I go on about things.

I still don't think that I was tryingt to control anything when I went into the room. To be honest, I really miss sleeping with my wife and had been having a very bad/sad day and week and was hoping just to enjoy the comfort of being their with her. I was hoping to lay there long enough to get sleepy and then go into my room to go to sleep. But I realize that it was a mistake and I truly do understand your points.

All in all I think that I have made less mistakes and have worked hard to be a better person. Applying the points in the book and the help of you guys/gals have given me a lot of tools to improve myself.