I keep getting yanked back into my H's web also. It happens at times like this- I start letting my guard down when things are calm. There have been no discussions about our M or issues this week, and it feels like things are OK, but I know they're not. Normally, I get the wind knocked out of me when one of these discussions crop up, it catches me off-guard, and I get caught in the web again. That’s why I’m fast-tracking the apartment and separation plans, I'm keeping last week’s discussion with H fresh in my mind and avoiding going into denial mode like I usually do. I’m not letting myself forget it, or the other pain from the last several years. I'm moving on to a more secure me.