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[sandi2]

My wife is often rude to me. When I call she answers the phone by saying "yeah", she won't say hello or goodbye when she hangs up. When she comes into the house she won't say hello or say goodbye when she leaves. This is very rude in my opinion. Should I say something to her about it or let it go?

Well, #1, what tone of voice is she using when she answers the phone? That says most of the story as to whether or not she's showing disrespect. Some people can say "yeah" in a very friendly, upbeat tone of voice. #2, how long has she done this? If she's been doing it for years, why say something now that the M is in trouble?

Different people have different habits that are not necessarily “bad”, but they do not see it as being “rude” behavior, it’s simply their custom or tradition or whatever. Have you ever talked to her about this? Why now?

At this point in time….I would think you are nit-picking. Perhaps you’ve always been this way. Maybe it is part of what makes you up, but it is not one bit attractive IMO. I think you are a perfectionist and you probably ride your wife’s a$$ about every little detail that comes along. You can’t let anything go b/c you want to keep hanging on to the issue. I’m sure she is sick of it.

Yes, you were trying to control things when you went into her room. You may have been using intimidation or maybe you thought your presence would make her feel enough pressure to just start spilling her guts (since you weren't saying anything.) At any rate, the purpose of you going into her room was to force something! You don’t like it when things don’t go to suit you, do you? I find it interesting that there has been (I think) 2 times that you admitted to messing up. Most LBS blame themselves all the time for mistakes, but you are usually blaming your W or somebody/something else. Yoiu must be able to look at yourself with her eyes. You have enough problems without trying to hunt for more.