When do we LBSs simply become dreamers, out of touch with reality
When you have expectations instead of Hope.
Originally Posted By: onceuponatime
If we truly love our spouse, will we be forced to live our life alone, without love and companionship of a man, or, consider ourselves failures?
The only person forcing is you. You get to choose whether you consider yourself a failure or not and you get to choose joy—with or without a man in your life. I'm not saying it is easy or that it is not lonely at times, but joy is a choice.
Originally Posted By: onceuponatime
Is this board just to help us out until we can accept failure or justify leaving? No one comes here for that. We come here in hopes that we will find a way that we can be with our spouses again.
If you think you are a failure, maybe you should adjust your measurement criteria.
You do not know that no one comes here to gain acceptance. Yes, the first motive of most in this community is marital reconciliation, but there are some who come in search of acceptance of what is happening without the notion that they can reconcile. Such people may find a bonus when they learn about DB'ing.
People come here in hopes, not with guarantees and to link expectation to hope is dangerous.
Originally Posted By: Golfgirl1
...everyone says to move forward, but how do you do that when you love someone so much and just want to remain hopeful.
It sounds to me as though you are misunderstanding what it means to move forward or move on. Those do not mean that you give up the Stand for your marriage. Standing isn't still. Standers can and should have full lives. There are many people in this world who are not in relationships whose lives are not on hold until some fantasy man or woman falls from the sky. Live your life while Standing.
