I don't think I mentioned this before, but our 17 year anniversary date falls within the middle of her vacation and I'm not sure exactly how I should handle that. I've thought of giving her a happy anniversary card before she leaves- I don't expect one from her- but I'm wondering if that might be provocative. It has also been suggested to me that I do give her a card and enclose a heartfelt letter with it but I'm thinking that may too much.
Don't do anything about the anniversary "before" she leaves. That is pursuing and nothing you say or any card is going to do what you want it to do (IMO). Wait and see if she calls while she's gone.
Give her almost all day and then if she doesn’t call you, and you’ve not heard anything about the OM and the A, I’d TM her and simply say that you were thinking of her while the two of you are apart on your XXth anniversary. You could always have something “waiting” when she got back home IF she doesn’t proceed with a PA.
Isn’t it ironic that she is planning this trip to have a PA and has left to go to a church camp? God may really convict her heart about what she’s doing, but most of it will have to be in how much she’s willing to open her eyes and see this stitch for what it really is and stop her fantasizing about OM. It would be “easy” to get caught up in the spiritual side of things while she’s out there out of reach of her real world and is “safely guarded” (so to speak). But when she comes back from camp, then she may quickly revert back to how she was before. I’ve discovered that when we are on a spiritual mountaintop that things are a lot easier than when we have to walk back down the mountain and go into the valley! The valley will be her test. We will pray that she will not only get her heart right with God, but that she will get enough spiritual courage and determination to fight the battles of temptation she’ll have to face. Most of those things don’t just disappear and we have to face them in order to be stronger. But, it is possible, and I sure hope it happens! Oh, now don’t I just sound sooooo wise??? (lol)
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
