His crisis is not about you. It is about him, his childhood and unresolved issues from his childhood. His emotional state was stunted at some point during childhood. This can be caused by verbal, phyiscal or mental abuse, admiration/validation were not provided by his parents, he was treated as it he were non-existent, etc.
It would have happened no matter who he was married to.
We all have travel the road of "what if" and the bottom line is this....it's his journey to find himself. We can't fix them because we didn't break them. We are now on a journey of self discovery too.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
