I've been reading around the different forums here. I have so much rolling around in my head that I just need to get it out. So ... what do you do when NOTHING works? When she's just clammed up as tight as can be?
I just need to ramble a bit ... I haven't initiated ANYTHING for a little over 4 months now, with the exception of getting my move details taken care of. And all that has elicited is complete inactivity on Her part, except for her now having filed. Thus far, the way this is going down seems backwards. I get that she wants out. I get that her needs aren't being met (or are, but by someone else). She wants to move on with her life. Fine. So ... why the complete avoidance? I mean really, we're adults, right. If you aren't happy, say so and let's talk about how to split us up like normal people. It's her complete avoidance that just throws me. And ... it gives me some hope, albeit a nervous hope. If this is what she wants, she should be embracing it, right? I don't know. I'm seriously fighting the urge to call her and just talk to her. Before I get bombarded with 2x4's I know it is a bad idea and that calling her will come off as pressure and that nothing good can come of that. For whatever reason, in my head today is the thought that pursuing her and leaving her alone are BOTH bad options. Maybe lunch ... and a beer or two ... will put things in a better light.
