Divorce not busted 2

[FaithfulH]

Quote:
"You don't want to hurt me, yet you keep telling me you don't love me. I don't want to break up the family either, but I want my wife to love me."


I disagree with Faithful on the quote above. I don't hear neediness in it. I hear strength. I hear someone saying what he needs out of the marriage. It implies that he has the right to choose to end the marriage if he doesn't get his needs met too. It's not all about her. I think it was the perfect thing to say.

Sara,

My point was more about the timing of Orich's statement than the content. I just question whether Orich's W is ready to hear about his needs just yet. I think it is far more productive if he wait a bit to talk to her about his needs. I also question why you think it is important that he let his W know that HE could end the marriage if he chose. Even if she didn't understand that, it sounds manipulative unless he is ready to follow through. I will admit that I am much more a proponent of the unconditional love approach than the tough love approach that some espouse. BTW, this is not a statement on where you stand because I have no idea.