It's largely irrelevant in terms of what others do.

It sounds as if you need to make some decisions for yourself. You could suggest a cup of coffee and see what he has to say--listening carefully for signs of growing up.

You might want to consider moving things forward yourself.


M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D