The lying stops when they grow up, accept responsiblity for their actions and face the consequences of their actions. During the crisis, lying and deception are very major players in all that they do.
In some ways, they remain connected to us. We are their "mom" or "dads" and they see us as the authority figures right now. Just like a toddler learning to walk...they want to try it, but mom, do not be far away.
My personal take on his commet about being "frugal" as saying that you didn't spend money on fun things or just spent to be spending. I think he may have resented the frugal spending that you did in the marriage. Listen to what he says and try to sift through the bs. Where his parents frugal?
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
