Do I want to know the truth?

[newnamenewlife]

Thanks blue rain-- you're probably right about not looking for more things to hurt myself with. I don't agree about the separation/divorce difference, though. I dated someone for a while a few months after H moved out.

We are not getting back together--which is definite. So whether we are S or D is just a detail. One reason we are not yet D is because I need to be married to H to get health-insurance benefits.

I understand that some people feel differently--but for me the technicality of D vs S isn't the issue.

Thank you, though--I appreciate your throughts.