What worked the first time? What was your courtship like? What does she like to do? Movies, music, outdoors, travel........ Make it about her. I bet it didn't involved watching Britcoms every Sat night (Minding the pedestrian Hyacinth.) Do something different. Once I got to the friendship stage here are some things I did: - bought her a CD of a new fav band - concerts - looked good/smelled good/felt good around her - went out to dinner at new places - shared more about me - sharpened my listening skills - flirt with her but be very coy about it
Lead the romance dept now as well. I did not initiate affection, my goal was to get her to. Changes how you plan your actions.
Gima, I'm going to interrupt, if you don't mind.
Coach, I'm not sure I get this. Your list seems like pursuing. What I'm asking is what defined, characterized, confirmed you and Greek being in the Friendship Stage? I know that sounds like a question with an obvious answer, but to me right now it is not. What preceded that stage for you,?
My wife seems to be and I definitely am still often in a tentative, stand-offish stage. Damn eggshells keep re-appearing. I am working on getting past that, progressing and regressing at times in thought if not in action.
Thanks.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
