I'm going to throw in with the others here and say that you recognizing the problem is half the battle.
Little ones are a joy unto themselves, but Jim is right in saying that they 'zap' all your energy. By the time the end of the day rolls around, you are so tired and so 'touched out' that the last thing you want to do is touch some more.
Mothers of young ones often feel more 'motherly' than they do 'sexy' as well. Though normal, it doesn't necessarily help in the romance department.
It is good that you enjoy sex once 'things get going.' There is a very good chance that you are one of those LD people who just doesn't experience desire until after things start happening. I am like this, and once I found out that this is a completely NORMAL way to feel desire, I didn't shun my H's advances the way I used to do. (I'm the LD, he is the HD). Just knowing that I would be okay once things got going was all the encouragement I needed to 'just do it' for two weeks.
You may want to try this out with your H. No matter how tired, how cranky, how whatever you are... just do it with him. And make sure you tell him that this is your plan. Tell him it may not happen every night, but that you are going to try for all you are worth to pack in as much sex as you can over the next two weeks. Him just knowing that you will be making a concentrated effort might make him much more understanding and patient (I know my H was!!). One stipulation I put to my H when I first tried the 'just do it' approach for two weeks was that we had to be finished by 11 p.m. so I could get some sleep. He had no problem with that.
Now, yes, sometimes the kids would wake up, or something would happen to derail us, so I'd arrange for a lunch time rendez-vous for a quick BJ for him... and that counted!!! He thought it was awesome, and I knew I was going to get to go to sleep that night without an enormous argument.
I can't say now that I feel any more desire than I did at our worst times, but I can tell you that the changes that this approach brought about in my H makes me much more open to anything he wants to initiate... and again, once things get going, I very much enjoy myself.
It is SOOO hard with babies... just do the best you can. I know you are probably as tired as you have ever been in your life, but all you can do is try, and I'm sure you H is going to appreciate the efforts you make!
