desperate...

[bluerain]

You are DBing for you. While she is involved with someone else nothing you say or do will make an impression on her. This is to make you a better person. She will notice your changes, and when her A ends, as they almost always do, you will be well placed to pick things back up.

I think that its really important for you to document when she agrees to do things that are in violation of the agreement, even though she has changed her mind about your D's overnight stay, you should still tell your L that she agreed to it before.