Crazy Jim always gives good advice! It's great you are trying to do something about this. Forget about initiating just try to say yes more often. The most upsetting thing is the feeling of rejection if you keep getting turned down all the time. As a HD person I am not so much bothered if my H initiates anything I would just like him to give me a positive response if I do. But if you want to be nice sort out a babysitter and arrange a nice romantic evening together I'm sure he will do the rest then all you have to do is not say no. What could be easier?
In the SSM it says to think about a time when you did feel like having sex and find out what was different then. Then try to recreate those things. Don't be afraid to ask your H for what you need to feel in the mood. I'm sure he would be only too willing to help when you explain it. Just remember to be nice and tell him that of course you do think he is amazingly attractive and good looking and the lack of desire is probably caused by hormones/being tired whatever but certainly nothing wrong with him.
Hope it works out for you. Let us know, we HD people love to hear about LD peeps who actually try to do something about it (except we get a little jealous).
