How do you wait this out?

[Golfgirl1]

I just got the bomb in May and I'm ready to give up already...My husband is having an affair with the 31 year old VP of his company and I'm so humiliated and embarrassed and shocked. The man I married was amazing and for almost 20 years we were happy (I thought). This man is selfish, self-centered, and rude. I want my husband and our marriage back and I don't think that's happening anytime soon.

Here's my dilemna...the VP is divorcing her husband. What I worry about is that she and my husband will begin moving the company finances around so I can't get my fair share if I do decide to divorce him. Right now, that's the reason I want to hurry up and file for divorce. I need to know I have financial security and can stay in my house! Anyone else in this situation?

I would love to "stand" for awhile, but he lies and deceives and continues the affair. Help!

M48
H/MLC 42
M 20 years
No kids
Bomb 5/09
Moved out 7/09