Sounds like H is recognizing his problem but as it is a serious life threatening illness, it is not as easy to stop as we would think. My H had this similiar pattern, where he would have these moments of clarity and sanity. He would make changes in what he drank or when etc. It became part of the process that showed him his problem. Each attempt to control his drinking will fail and eventually he will see it all for himself. Hopefully it will not be b/c he or anyone else is injured.
As I figured this part out, it became easier to let go of the arguments and allowed him to see his problem instead of our arguing. Sounds good that you have an outlet that reinforces what you can do and will help you rebuild your self confidence. A is an illness that affects everyone around the A. The experience will clarify things for you.
