Hoovering...that is a good word!!! I went to the site and read it, I can see many things that relate to me, my H, and my M.
Believe what they do and not what they say is very good advice. When we had just split up this time around and he was trying to show me that he was willing to fight for our M and all that stuff, he would send me cards, flowers, call/text alot, and do things without being asked. All that stopped, now we are bak to the calls/texting nice things.
Sometimes I feel like this is a web that he is making. And there are probably others (men and women) just like him. They make a web with all the nice things that they say and do and then they have 'stuck' in it when they turn crappy on you. You struggle for release and about the time that you are free of the web, they start all the nice stuff again and you stop pulling out of the web. Then before you know it you are 'stuck' again.
Spybunny? You feel this way too?
I try hard to read up on all the websites and links that people post to me, some I can relate to, others I can not. I have printed a few out to show to the MC and to talk to him about. My only problem??? My H actually thinking, believing, saying, that he has some sort of a problem and then getting help for it.
I have caught him still on the net, looking at videos of porn. He thinks that it is no big deal but I say different. I have set my foot down that I will not tolerate it and that it needs to stop if he wants to be with me. I wonder sometimes if he will just get better at hiding it so I don't find it anymore.
Me-31 Him-28 D1-9 D2-6 Married 5-06 Seperated 12-07 He filed 1-08 Reconciled 4-08 D dropped 7-08 Bomb dropped about H's activities outside the marriage 4-21-09 Filed for D 4-28-09 Trying to make a go of it 6-09
