Waiting More Than a Dozen Years

[Bagheera]

I am not interested in changing who I am, I am interested in being who I am. In the area of sexual intimacy, the capacity for full self-expression of who I am appears "limited." [sic "nonexistent"] In other areas I have chosen, with intentionality, to limit or put away that expression, at least for a time.

Well put, TEGH. Disregarding the area of intimacy, for now, the questions now become:

(1) Do you want to start "being who you are" within your current relationship?

(2) If so, how might you go about achieving that?

Much of what myself and Strong&Alive have been advocating to you is that in order to get what you want out of life, you need to find your inner, masculine strength and actually begin the self-expression of "who you are" that you spoke of --> regardless of what others, including your spouse, think about it. In essense:

* start being true to yourself,
* improve yourself physically and mentally,
* engage in the activitives that make YOU happy, and
* start living your life for yourself, first.

If you are getting "in a word, nothing. No...thing" out of your current relationship, then why in heck are you currently sacrificing *who you are* for it? It seems a pretty rotten deal, to me.

-- B.