Orich, be steady my friend b/c her mood swings are probably not leveled out yet. I think she knows what the "right thing" is.....and she wants to do that at this time, but then she has to face that decision again & again. As you have already experienced....that takes a big toll on the MR in every way. So, hope you will continue to get strength to stand tall. This is a very encouraging sign and you needed it!
I don’t want to sound negative here, but just want to warn you about acting overly excited to her. (And I’m don’t mean she will change her mind about her conversation with you, but I’m referring to her mood changing.) That is b/c we women know it doesn’t take much for the H to think “all is well” and he’s ready to ML. You realize it isn't all well yet, but men think differently from women. Please wait for her to initiate any moves toward ML. She may or may not…I don’t know. If she is not ready for that yet, then she may act cold toward you in order to discourage you from thinking that she wants to ML. It is complicated. A lot of women need for the MR to feel happy/good in order to ML. Some need to ML for assurance of their H’s love, etc. (Depends on the individual.) But, I wanted you to be prepared for her mood swing. It may be soon or it may be later, but until she has some things worked out, I think you’ll see her up & down.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
