thanks Braveheart, cage, still n love, glam and sleeper for your support
Wow I still cant believe it I may decide to take the direct route and ask XH in the next few days I think you are right RCR I need to take the path of Grace This will/ can only be done of God Power I will not be able to do it
If this OW is going to be stepmom, I need to let it all go I have to be taken out of the picture and find a way to peacfully coexist among this craziness
In some ways I have moved on but in other ways, I was still hoping for the miracle that xH would somehow want to Save our family
OW Is nothing she is a needy and sick young girl Yes, she was very quiet for these years..silent now she is wanting to be EXPOSED maybe she is wanting some satisfaction it doesnt matter anymore she will never get the man I Married b/c he is a shell now empty and broken and she aided his destruction I used to fear her now I see her as nothing she cant touch me anymore or come close to what I have now there is no way here for her If this is true, it will be the last of my effort to hold on peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Hey Sweetie, this must be very hard for you. I dont think I would rush to find out if it is true. Things could change day to day. I would just let it play out. You might even want to pull up a lawn chair because this is a train wreck waiting to happen. Peace, you have come so far and are truly an amazing lady. Continue on your journey, my friend. H needs to continue on his.
Sweet Sweet Peace... There is nothing wrong with holding onto the rememberance and teh belief that GOD and GOD alone can fix things. AND YOU KNOW that i understand at least the relationship jumping etc. It hurts.. it hurts in a way that I never want to experience again.
Go get that book I told you about on my thread. It has given me healing. It has given me understanding as to why they the walk away HAS TO DEAL with thier stuff and there is NO WAY we can "BRING" them home. YES YES YES deal with grace and dignity adn RESPECT YOU. YOU my friend!!!
This journey is so freakin' hard!!!
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
BM Thanks for reminding me that the wreck is coming..although seems like its already here if you would have seen my x yesterday Cage What is the book again?
Yesterday xh came back to office we discussed pay cut for all of us due to economy and our 3 vechicle breaking down and needing repairs everyone rational except X he is a nightmare I saw this look in his eyes like a CRAZY Lunitic I think he is mentally ill It was so scary I hardly slept and I have a date tonight
Well I got up I felt the need to throw XH Clothes out they have been boxed here for over 2 Years and I guess he doesnt want them The desire to rid the house of him was stron This is so unrepairable I am done I only hope and pray I can find a way to keep things peacful as XH Is like a bomb ready to explode at any moment Only he is really not my problem Im just trying to keep our business together and give our kids security and stability but they sadly can see who he is..I cant protect them my son asks on a regular basis? Why did you marry him? son is 8 peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
I spoke with a friend tifay I think xH is really getting M saturday this friend said the OW has a son who lives with her XH out of state I didnt know that she is only 28, D with child
I am ok with all of it xH is irrational, lying and worse than anytime Ive seen him during the crises he is lower and he keeps digging himself in deeper so he will M OW then what? Happily ever after? I dont think so but I dont understand the need they both have to M a second time for each of them and XH is clearly a lunatic..even my brother who works with him says hes off the wall so I pray for him Im glad its not me right now I dont want this man the way he is I cant have him the way he was as he is no longer that man peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Peace, he is spinning towards the bottom, I think. He has to marry because that is the next thing he thinks will make him happy. That is so sad that your young son asked you that. Try really hard not to say anything bad about your xh to your children. I know its difficult. Kids are so much more intuitive than we give them credit for. He has to continue on his journey. You have to continue on yours.
Peace - I am sorry to hear about ur x. I wonder sometimes... probably anything to keep teh young one around. Security for themselves? I don't know. I can't imagine, but feel as though some day I will have to face the same thing.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again
I am at the same place you are. This is getting ridiculous, isn't it? Mine looks and acts just like yours. My ex scares me, something out of a horror movie. I do believe this is what happens when they hit bottom. They grab for anything, including marriage. I am sure mine will follow suit soon. Mine is so strapped financially that I think this is what is holding him back. I don't know though. Praying for you, I know this is hard. He is only going to be more miserable with the twit.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Oh, no doubt mine will marry the little girl asap... that's what she wants. She sends me silly little messages about it. lol hmmmm like back in the day when we were teenagers and acted like that? So much the same.
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