Wow, your story is a lot like mine, in that I fought and fought for my marriage and it didn't work, my XH didn't even really try for very long after I found out about his A, he went back to OW immediately after he moved out the second time, lied and lied about it, I was still fighting for our marriage, for our kids only whole family, etc. Anyway, I am just curious how long you have been divorced before she wrote you that e-mail? My XH doesn't see our kids at all really as we live 700 miles apart, they are there right now for 3 weeks and I just wonder if when he sends them home he will finally realize all he has given up for that OW, (who is just a awful woman who gave up custody of her son to be with a married man, before I even knew about the A and he and I were totally together and very married!!) He was an incredible H and Father before he met that woman, he is in a total MLC, but I am just curious if and when something will snap him out of it. I am like you, I don't think I will ever take him back as he has just caused so much pain and agony to me and our kids. But, I do agree with what Kevin says about Gods time versus our time. I pray everyday for my XH and that he will realize all he is missing, be glad she realized it and it isn't 20 years from now. Maybe now she will be a better mother and that is what is so great for your kids. That is all I want for my kids, for him to realize and want to be in their life each and every day.
Me: 39 (today!!) first M XH: 42 first M Married: 10/12/91 Bomb of EA & PA- 7/6/07 Reconciled right away moved out 1st: 9/07 moved back: 12/07 started seeing OW again: spring 08 but I had no idea! moved out for good: 7/08 filed for D: 11/08 D final 5/09 found out he was with OW all along: 6/09 Kids: D16, S13, D10
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Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
