but I am at a loss as to whether I should bring up hormone testing/treatment or even how to do it without it coming off as something akin to a DAM blaming his W's issues on "that time of the month."
That is a common problem among the men who have W’s in that condition. And, you are right, b/c I have been like the W who did not want my H touching me and if he suggested “anything” about a doctor, I thought he wanted a pill to make me ho#ny. They had a program on Oprah one day about a couple like that and it was very explicit. I was amazed how it helped the woman and she even looked different after her hormone level was healthy. If only your W had another woman who had been through it and would talk to her. I know it is awful for a man who doesn’t understand how it must be. Since it is something he wants as much as “air to breathe”, he doesn’t understand why a woman wouldn’t feel the same way. I don’t know how to explain it except to tell you to imagine the worst possible thing you would not enjoy doing……..and realize you could go the rest of your life without doing that and not miss it. It is like when men who have low testosterone do not have much desire. Doctors have discovered that when women are given small doses of testosterone that it helps their drive. I’m sure you know all of this, but I am talking as if somebody else should read this also.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
