Sandi2, Coach, Puppy and Gucci help!

[The Wifey]

Before they left, the W and I talked about a D, ( logistics neither one of can afford attorneys this would leave nothing in the end, option include mediation or just sitting down to figure it out like two adults). I let her know that her legal threats won't work anymore with me. I'm not the one who asked for this sitch, her main grip is always about her money. She claim that she is broke and can't afford to do anything, no food for herself, none to do anything with the kids. She said that her sister has sent her money. I said that I'm in no way responsible for her financial situation, I'm taking care of everything as usual. She said that I was living in luxury.I should at least pay for her to have cable. She has only demanded a $1000. a month back in April. Again I let her know that the door is open for her to return.

All good, you let her vent and responded appropriately.

She feels that I would try and screw her out of whats she deserves in a divorce. This is the first time the actual D discussion has taken place. She spewed a lot of BS. I told her again I was through with all her threats, and did not appreciate her accusing me of keep the children busy so she could not visit them. If she wanted to know what was going on she just need to ask.

They always assume you are going to try and screw them, but don't take any responsibility. Total Script.

After all her drama she calmed downed. She was in the car with D 6 ready to leave. None the before mentioned took place in front of the kids. I was suprised that she told me that this past year she had felt as though everyone wanted something from her especially her mom. She is glad that her mom was now in an asisted care home. She just feels like she needs to acomplish something on her own. I told her I understand how you feel, but we are your family and that were her for you to accomplish what ever she needs to. She told me that I have been there for her and the kids and that she never wanted to hurt me or the children. Also your doing a great job. I said that it did hurt because I don't know if she's dead or alive when she out there and that we all shared her pain. I told her we could put the past behind us and forge forward one day at a time.

No wonder she balled her eyes out. You did great validating and reminding her of the family she is choosing to leave.

She replied that she hasn't hit the wall were she would realized that she had it all and threw it all away, and it's to late...............

And she will hit a wall. Part of the hesitation to reconciliation is burnt bridges that they know they caused.

She balling her eyes out so I take her in my arms and hold her for at least five minutes..........They leave.

I'm so confused !!!!

You held and comforted here. She will not forget that.

I know you are confused, but so is she.

You done good.