Guess communication doesn't matter much when she pretty much cut communication off altogether. I think we have had a total of 4 texts altogether today. Oh yeah, I guess I had about a 10 second conversation on the phone when the kids handed me the phone when they were done talking to her.
How are you tonight? At least you got a few nibbles today. there has been nothing on my radar.
M (46) W (45) S (17) D (14) D (6) T (20) M (17) Seperated 3/2009 . When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze." Isaiah 43:2
I am soso right now. It is really quite lonely having the kiddos out of the house. I know they need to have everything off of their mind too, so grandmas house is good for them. It might not be so bad if I didnt have to work tomorrow, but I know if I go out tonight, I wont get any good sleep, again. Good to hear from ya though Brave.
All in all, I am hoping that maybe W will start to miss the kids to, it will be a good 72 hours or so that she is not going to see them. I at least saw them today for an hour or so, and I wil probably pick them up tomorrow from grandma tomorrow rather have them stay till Sunday.
You asked about how you should respond when you see where she lives.....and I do not think you should pretend to act "excited" about it. After all, she left you and moved there! If she's acting all giddy over it, just look around and nod your head. She will probably be silly enough to ask what you think about it. Simply look at her and say, "You are the one that chose this, so it's what you think about it that matters". If she presists in wanting to know how you like or dislike it, just shrug your shoulders and (if it is an okay place) then say “it’s okay”. But don’t get into an argument over the place itself. It is the fact she has left you that you are really angry about. I was under the impression you were going to go “dark”. Now she’s inviting you to lunch? Crazy. I don’t know how you could DB very well when your emotions are so raw over her moving out. Has she actually gotten all of her things out of the house, yet?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I forgot to mention on the going to lunch that it was with the kids too. I probably would not have gone just the two of us. As for her things out of the house, no she still has most everything here. She has taken a lot out, but still has most things here. I have not gone dark on her, but with the kids gone for the weekend, I have not gone out of my way to make any contact to her, and have heard very little from her. When I saw the house with her and the kids, I did pretty much what you said, except I did say that it does look like a pretty safe place for the kids to come and visit.
