Divorce not busted 2

[FaithfulH]

"You don't want to hurt me, yet you keep telling me you don't love me. I don't want to break up the family either, but I want my wife to love me."

Orich,

I am happy that your W did this 180 on her letter...however, your comment above (if this is what you really said) overflows with neediness. It is all about YOU and what YOU need. Notice you said "ME" 4 times! The watchout is that, for whatever reason, your W's love reservoir is empty....and you are asking her to give you something she cannot right now. Just like a bank account, it is going to take awhile before she feels able to love you back. The likely response you will get if you keep this up....is a major pullback. You MUST be strong...and detach. You cannot be up when she is up and down when she is down! You must do your best to be UP all the time! I realize that that sounds impossible. The 2 things that helped me....lean on God....and focus on YOU! Unfortunately this journey will not be near as short as you would like! I am not trying to depress you...but, to help you understand how important it is that you be strong....and not needy....pursuing...clingy. You MUST let her have the time and space to get her head on straight.