Well we had another big talk last night. And then she must have called me 4 times already today. Last night she really laid out why she felt we were incompatible. She basically said that being with me she always felt like she was racing to be good enough for me, and that she never felt as loved as she should have. She acknowledged that she is a very insecure person and that she is very needy and she basically laid out an argument for how that, coupled with the way that I am, makes a formula for unhappiness.
Believe nothing she says and only 1/2 of what she does. Straight English, read 12 times a day.
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Today I find myself wondering if she is right. I mean I love her, but maybe we are fundamentally incompatible. We have vastly different educational backgrounds, and family backgrounds, and vastly different goals in life. I am finally at the point where there are breaks in her argument. She emailed me to say that she just can't let me go and that she still loves me, but I'm not sure if I should bust this divorce or not. I detached so thoroughly, that I am starting to wonder if this is the right thing for me to do.
Give yourself a week to think about this. You are on the roller coaster and detached or not, this will probably be different after you give it some thought.
We all have doubts in our weakest moments. Sometimes we are so angry that they could do this, treat us this way.... but then within a day we are sad or ..... you get the picture.
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By the way it is not like she is breaking down my door. She is still with OM and still wants divorce and to sell our house. I can just see that if I fight for our marriage, there is a real chance I can save it. I don't know what to do. Help.
I don't think you really don't know what to do here.
Me 45, H 46, S 23, M 26, Together 30, Bomb 6-2-08, S 6-19-08; H left 12-29-08. H home 12-09, Still MLC in 2012! Me- I have my big girl panties on. Bring it.
