Dropping the rope is no pressure, no expectations, true giving, and letting go of your fears. You absolutely have to stop any desperate, demeaning behavior. It gives your power away, and deteriorates the relationship further. Give him forgiveness, time, and space to develop or recapture his sense of self-worth and individualism...it's the best thing you can do for your troubled relationship. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.
Great insight - thanks!
Dad tried to answer the nurses with a 'yes' and 'no' yesterday and I believe he tried to return my kiss goodbye! It's wonderful to see some progress and we just pray he continues to get better!
Still no response from H. I went to a rooftop patio bar with a guy friend last night, who tells it like it is. Even he said there must be something mentally wrong with H to not contact me or my family during this situation with my dad... Well, who knows, but I have no power/control over that. As you said, Antlers, just forgive him and give him the time/space he needs. I'm pretty sure I have forgiven him for leaving me, and even for the NC right now. I feel actually more empathetic towards H b/c his actions are so out of character.
Recapturing his self-worth and individualism... so true, and this could take a long time. But I'm in it for the long haul so he can take whatever time he needs...
