Waiting More Than a Dozen Years

[Bagheera]

It seems that my initial observation, that this is a no-win situation, remains accurate and there is little offered here.

The standard operating phrase around here is, "Change your relationship by changing yourself."

Try this, please. Go out and get a copy of Dr. Glover's book and read it. If it doesn't apply to you, then we'll move on and see what other avenues can be explored. This is an on-line support group, and we ARE here to help, and to be helped by others.

It might also be helpful for us to know what your past marriage counselors said about your relationship. How long did you see them, and what was their approach, both with you and with your wife? How did they diagnose your case?

You also mentioned that your wife accuses you of passive-aggressive behavior, and that you don't know what that means. There are a collection of articles about the "passive-aggressive husband" or the "passive-aggressive spouse" out there on the web -- just Google it. I'm not saying that this applies to you, just suggesting that you research it and see.

SELF-help is what this site is about. Use us and keep talking to us.

-- B.