OK. So I have so far ignored my W's suggestion that we follow the collaborative divorce path.
Friday night we go to see a movie. It's packed and there are not two seats together. She throws a little tantrum and leaves (we came in separate cars). I stayed and watched the movie.
this morning:
Earlier this week I promised my 8 yr old S that I would take him to the aquarium this weekend and invited W along. She said yes, but we had a neighbor on our street die suddenly this week and she has committed to shuffling people to and from the airport.
She tells S that she will have to reschedule taking him to the aquarium to a day next week when I am out of town. I told her that I made the plans with our S and asked her to come along. I didn't think it was OK for her to change them.
Another tantrum...she's hates me, she's sure she wants a d, she's filing...yada yada.
Tells me how she "has" to work and the only job she can get is in retail, because she gave up her life, career, education for me.
Now she can't afford a d and will have to start over
She's tells me how exhausted she is working 40hrs a week, being a mom, taking care of the house.
Hold up. I work mostly from home. Watch the kids while she works, even though she doesn't "have" to because I want to support her getting back in the workplace.
Do my part around the house -- laundry, cooking, cleaning, etc and pay a housekeeper to come in for a deep cleaning twice a month.
Holy cow, what's she think it's going to be like if she divorces me and I'm not around? I'm not perfect, but I am trying to be the best husband I can. When will she ever stop the blame game and see that I'm a good guy?
Me 38 / W 37 M 14 yrs S 11/S8 First Bomb: 3/6/2009 EA Second Bomb: 6/4/2009 PA Same House Separate Rooms
