Did you ever think that she needed to worry about what you would do? She needed to worry about how you would react to her letter, but as usual, you rescued her from any of that concern. She has placed herself in this situation and now she must suffer the consequences of her choices. Stop recuing her from bad choices. Just as a parent has to step aside to let the child learn from his/her mistakes….you have to do this with your W.
You once said that you did not want your W to see the “police officer” side of you that you have to project at work, but I am of the opinion that is exactly what she needs to see. Be that tough cop when the situation calls for it.
YEP. Orich, this doesn't mean being a jerk. It means showing tough love. As a man, I understand your desire to help her ease her fears - to solve her problems and allay her concerns - that is what we, as men, are taught our role is - to be the protector. But, this is one time where you have to let her confront the reality of what she wants to do. It doesn't mean you don't love her. In fact, it really means, and shows, you love her enough to let her deal with this. She will not see it that way, and will throw this back at you and make it your fault/unreasonableness, etc. Be prepared for that and realize she is just being like a rebellious teenager who isn't getting her way.
