I forgot to mention on the going to lunch that it was with the kids too. I probably would not have gone just the two of us. As for her things out of the house, no she still has most everything here. She has taken a lot out, but still has most things here. I have not gone dark on her, but with the kids gone for the weekend, I have not gone out of my way to make any contact to her, and have heard very little from her. When I saw the house with her and the kids, I did pretty much what you said, except I did say that it does look like a pretty safe place for the kids to come and visit.
