You asked about how you should respond when you see where she lives.....and I do not think you should pretend to act "excited" about it. After all, she left you and moved there! If she's acting all giddy over it, just look around and nod your head. She will probably be silly enough to ask what you think about it. Simply look at her and say, "You are the one that chose this, so it's what you think about it that matters". If she presists in wanting to know how you like or dislike it, just shrug your shoulders and (if it is an okay place) then say “it’s okay”. But don’t get into an argument over the place itself. It is the fact she has left you that you are really angry about. I was under the impression you were going to go “dark”. Now she’s inviting you to lunch? Crazy. I don’t know how you could DB very well when your emotions are so raw over her moving out. Has she actually gotten all of her things out of the house, yet?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
