You really gave me a big smile when I read that last post! Now, I feel that you are getting to the place you emotionally drop the rope and focus on you getting a life instead of keeping the spotlight on her all the time.
So many people do not understand the concept of dropping the rope. I hope you do. You seem to have what you need, now, in order to turn lose of that emotional rope you’ve clung to trying to keep her from OM, and pulling hard trying to bring her back to you. When you let go, then the ball is in her court and anything she does will be her choice and not b/c you’ve pressured her in any way. So, when she comes back wanting you to take her back, you will find out if she’s ready to go to “work” at having a brand new MR and not pick up where it was left.
Speaking of a new MR, as I’ve told you before, it takes time for a WAW to get over an EA. When she gets the rug pulled out from under her from OM, she will still need some time to get all of that out of her system and be able to think about making a life with her H. I hope OM does show her what type of person he is before anything physical happens, but anyway….if she can get her eyes open and see the truth, then it will be so much better in the end. She won’t keep hanging on to the fantasy! That’s the good thing about OM ruining himself instead of you charging in on your white horse to stop her having a PA. It would be funny if OM had another another woman there when your W went to see him. Let’s just pray that will do her fantasy days up and that she won’t be the kind of WAW who immediately begins looking for some other man…..to fall in love with!
What I’m saying is that when she comes back from Atlanta, and even if she is ready to run back into your arms, I would stronly suggest you tell her that you feel that the two of you need some work before plunging back into the R too quickly. It hasn’t been “quick” for you. But, she doesn’t need to be jumping from one R to the other…..if she gets dumped by OM. She needs to get OM out of her system before being a W to you. That is my opinion. I don’t think she’s in love with him….by a long shot, but it’s all those lofty dreams of the “grass is greener” that she needs to see.
So glad you are feeling good about yourself. You are right BJ…..any woman would be lucky to go out with you. Keep up the great PMA.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
THERE YOU GO BIG JOHN!!
