Hi Mac, you've asked me a couple of times to take a look at your thread. I have been keeping up with it as best I could. I have to say that you have the best PMA of anyone I've seen on here! If you could bottle that up and sell it, you would be very rich!! I call myself a “realist” but that can often times be misused for being negative. I have to work against depression and looking through negative glasses. So, sometimes if I feel that I am going to pull another poster down with a lot of garbage, I won’t say anything. I feel that you have received very good support and the main thing is you are reaching out to other posters on their threads and not just waiting for somebody to come to yours. That is the thing to do!

Obviously you have a true WAW on your hands. I’m not sure I have her figured out as far as any R’s with OP. I do believe our friends have tremdous influence in our lives. Have you ever suspected that she could have an A with another woman? I am wondering if OW may be pursuing your W and trying to get her to experiment with alternative lifestyle. I am strickly guessing and as the old saying goes….pulling straws out of thin air.

There does not have to be another person that the WAW is attracted to before she walks away from her M. It could just be the “idea” of being free to date and having her own life without obligations to M. However, I do not support the fact she is expecting you to completely finance her while she is S from you. The fact she went up $500 more this month seems to be rather extreme. Did she give any reason….like one outstanding bill? Maybe she had to pay a credit card company in oder to get them off her back. Anyway, it is my personal belief that a LBH should not enable his WAW to life apart from him if she has chosen to leave him. There may be an extreme exception at times, but I sure don’t see it in your stitch. I know you would not desire that your W return out of desparation for financial support, but that she would return b/c she loves you and wants to be with you. But I feel that as long as you are willing to hand out the cash to her, she will continue to live apart from you.
Take care and keep up your sunny disposition.
Sandi

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!