If you found out your H had been secretly interacting with a woman who was actively pursuing him, and/or with whom he had had an A in the past, would YOU be angry?
It's not the action of flirting. It's the secrecy, the history, and the disregard for the potential of it progressing beyond innocence that is angering.
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But the fact that it is itself not grounds for D or further deterioration of the R (just a further symptom) is why I am glad I had a chance to let it blow over first. I don't want my angry blowups to be the cause of further R deterioration.
That's why I journal here when I am angry
Last edited by Thinker; 07/25/0903:47 AM.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
