Well, that's what this place is for at times - just venting. I have some of the same fears. I guess, I am the fool. Cuz my XH left me 10 years ago the same way when we were casually dating. Guess, I'm not a quicker learner or a glutten for punishment. Sometimes, when you stop trying so hard things work out. Ya, just never know.
Your H filed for D so quickly - I can understand the hurt & anger you feel. In my case, I had much longer to adjust to the reality & come to terms with my emotions.
Any road back to a healthly M or R is friendship. Yet, that can only happen after you let go of your fears, hurt & anger.
Stay strong & get that PMA back!
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)