FWIW, it seems most abusive guys are charming to the outside world. This feeds into their ability to isolate the abuse target because nobody would ever believe that such a gentle caring guy would do those kinds of things. This can even tend to turn on the victim, making her think *she's* the crazy one, maybe it really is her fault, etc.
It's not!
And yes, I know this from experience. My OM was emotionally/ verbally/ financially abusive.
Last edited by Dia; 07/25/0901:29 AM.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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