You already know the answer. Upbeat, cordial, game face on. If you pull back, she will retrench because it will confirm every reason she thinks she has for leaving.
For all you know, she went to whispers because she was telling the gf she couldn't believe how supportive you were and how much that confused her. Try not to assume or mind-read.
It's hard. It sucks. But when we all made the choice to save our marriages by ourselves if we had to, we knew this is what we were signing up for.
It's the 'worse' part of the ol' for better or worse and we signed up for that, too.
Sorry for the cold comfort, but you'd do it for me if I needed it.
The trouble with having an open mind is that people put things in it.
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