Need to vent slightly. I stayed up until midnight talking to my W last night to "be there" for her and listen to all the problems she is having at her office. We went through our financials to see what it would be like if she quit her job - I told her the extra $$$ she makes isn't worth her sanity and happiness (She cannot stand her boss). Went to bed thinking this was a good thing.
So, this morning, she was to meet with one of the higher ups to discuss her problems. She IM'd me to tell me the meeting went well, and that she and this person were trying to meet with an HR person this afternoon for possible solutions. That's when the communication went DEAD. No update, at all, about whether she had that meeting or how the rest of her day went. I fight the urge to send her an IM to ask what was going on.
OK, so I get home, and she is on our back deck talking to one of her girlfriends - kids are inside. I do not eavesdrop, but after I walk up (back door to house is near the deck), she begins whispering/talking low. I have been home aboout an hour and a half and nothing from her about her day. NOTHING. She is talking to me and is nice - but all conversation is about other things.
Dammit, I reach out to her (the woman who tells me she wants a D) and let her know we can make it without her job, and that I just want her to be happy. And, then she does not give me any update about this afternoon.
I am angry, not sad, angry b/c it is so disrespectful. She calls one of her girlfriends - maybe she should have called the girlfriend last night and talked to her until midnight. At least I could have gotten some sleep!
I really do not feel like talking to her or being around her right now.
OK, better now. Just had to get that out.
I suppose this is the WAS' version of the rollercoaster. Anyone got a take on this? Do I simply suck it up and act happy or is it ok to pull back tonight?
