Sweetie, you are a wonderful, insightful, generous man. And being such, you were compassionate to your xw. And that's ok.

It is good that you are thinking about what she said, but, dont let it get into your head and start messin' around in there too much.

If you are open to a friendship with her, start slowly, but, use the skills that you have learned in db and do what is best for you.

She is the mother of your children and a better relationship on your terms is always a good thing for them.

Take it slowly. I know you know that this could be a peek out, feeling the vibe kind of a thing for her.

If her therapist is a good one, she is in for a rocky ride the next several months when she begins to see the devastation she has wrought.

Your choice how much or how little you want to be there for her.

Please though, tread carefully, my friend.

Last edited by beginnersmind; 07/24/09 10:25 PM.