Thanks for the advice FG. I am glad for the talk, too - that makes three "good", deep talks within a couple of weeks after months of basically nothing. It does help to see and understand better how much pain and turmoil he is in so I can better sympathize and understand the drama he puts us through. It really hurts to see him this way and to feel like he doesn't want my help at all, though to me the fact that he is still here and that he has opened up makes me think on some level he does, or at least he still wants that connection IN CASE he "decides" he wants my help.
I was good at shutting out the negative blah blah and seeing it for what it was. And when he mentioned how it might be better if he moved out I kept my mouth shut, except for the bit about the kids needing him around, though actually I don't think that was brought up right after him saying that.
I certainly won't push him out the door at all.
Hearing about the hurt does make it a bit easier to stomach the crazy.
