In retrospect, a LOT of things he said and did seem consistent with his having been involved with this woman prior to deciding to leave. He was completely resistant to working on our M, which really didn't make sense given our strong history together. I do NOT believe that he left for the great unknown, as he made it seem. He was too determined, too driven. IT always felt like there was something he wasn't telling me.
So now I'm wondering if it would be helpful or more hurtful to know more about his past R with this OW. He still insists that he was not having an affair with her, but started seeing her after he left.
From what you say, I think you already know the truth. You're asking if you should confirm that? It doesn't sound like there is a point. I had a very honorable and moral H too before he started with OW. In my mind, I compare EA/PA's to addiction. It's very much like that.
