Magnificent

[mishka422]

OK....spoke to soon...DANG IT!

I had left my cell phone at home this morning. When I got home at lunch Marc met me in the kitchen with the news that he changed his mind and is going to the movie with his dad tonight. Ummm......he knew about this why? Gabe had apparently already told him about it before he asked me if I had plans with him. Tonight was the only time in the next week I was going to have to spend with him and his dad is taking it away from me? NO! It's my darned weekend and he doesn't get to do that! I did a pretty good job of hiding my upset from Marc but I asked him if he was sure because it was the only time I was going to have for a while. He said yes.

What made this worse? I picked up my phone and there was a text from Gabe asking me what I was doing with Marc tonight. Excuse me? He doesn't need to know. Again....MY WEEKEND. I don't ask him what he's doing with Marc when it's his time. I was ticked off big time since Marc changed his mind so my response?

M-Apparently nothing now. Thanks a lot for telling him you're taking him to a movie before you cleared it with me. Now the plans are shot. When it's NOT your weekend you don't get to just take time away from me. I have very little time I can spend with him and you have all the time in the world right now. I ask nothing of you. The least you could do is respect my time with my son.

Gabe called me several times after that but I ignored the call because I knew I'd blow my stack at him.

G-If u answer ur phone I can explain the situation better so u wont flip out for no reason.

M-I'm not flipping out. Just really disappointed that the one night I had to spend doing something fun with marc has been trampled. I could talk forever but you still won't hear me. No point.

G-whatever or however marc told u apparently u got it and took it totally different. call me if u want it straight.

M-I changed my mind and want to go see the movie at the ampitheater tonight is pretty clear. I work 65 hours a week so it's pretty impossible to do much with him. I will call you on my way back to work.

Yes, I went a little berserk, but this all goes back to what he has done over and over regarding plans with Marc without consulting me first.

When I called him I told him that as far as Marc was concerned the plans were sealed the second Gabe mentioned 'possibly' taking him to a movie tonight. Gabe told me this is what he said, "There is a free movie at the ampitheater tomorrow night. If you don't have plans with your mom then maybe we can go." That statement right there, before he ever checked with me, planted the seed in Marc's head that he was going to movie with his dad, period. Gabe still doesn't get Marc's way of thinking. Of course, he's never around him anymore so why would he?

So.....long story short....Marc is now staying with me and I will now be the bad guy because I wanted him with me. Yup...no one wins here. I had told Marc I wanted him to do what he wanted to do. I was not angry with him in ANY way. I was mad at Gabe for not checking with me before he opened his mouth and even presented that as a possiblity.

I'm crazy aren't I? I should have probably just smiled and waved, smiled and waved. Let him have the time I wanted and that was rightfully mine and give up, right?