Remember a couple of posts ago, I mentioned how you need to be careful not to seem judgmental towards her especially in the form of religion? Well....
"Why waste your time with something such as M if you don't believe in the vows and covenant being for life? Why bother? Why not just take that money and go have a fantasy vacation if it truly means nothing? Why marry in a church if it means nothing? It just seemed like something neat to do? The bible doesn't say you can just get divorced and remarried and all is good as long as you are happy and didn't like your situation. It doesn't say that anywhere."
That sounds pretty judgemental.
I hope you realize that all the advice from day one pointed to one thing...detaching. You have your ups and downs but now you're throwing religion at it.
There are times where now you're beginning to sound self-righteous, then you turn it around and say...let go let God.
Well, you're right. Let God take care of it. Release your burden to Him and see what happens. Go back and read the story of the Prodigal Son. That's detachment and faith right there.
great post Stk, and something I read in a book recently about how people who use religion to Win arguments, convince others that they are "proved right" are SOOOO missing out on the real message, which is spreading God's message of love and modelling forgiveness. One author submits that people who argue about God and quote scripture to "win their arguments" rarely if ever, thereby turn someone's heart to God. They usually turn them off.
I have a brother who has been "witnessing" for decades, bringing up scripture with self righteous indignation and (usually anger) and turns everyone off. My brother says it's religious persecution that makes us upset with him, but he doesn't see how HE is the persecutor, and that's why no one invites him to celebrations or family events unless they have to.
As for a spiritual awakening for her, Kevin, how is that your job to worry about? That's God's job. Your job is your own spiritual awakening and preparing youreslf for it so when you have one, you'll be ready.
Birthday? I think taking your d's to dinner and having cake for dessert with a candle on it and a waiter singing Happy Birthday is one idea. Or Maybe make something special at home, or meet up with some friends and let your d's see you happy with new people in your life. That'd be a good 180' You have a lot to be grateful for, and you have gotten through a very tough year, & everyone you love is still healthy and safe. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
