My take on this TIF, is that the guy can`t decide what to do. Don`t push him in any direction. He has to be the one to decide.
My H went through this too. saying he`d be a better father if he was separated. Yeah, right! And being very incosistent in his attention towards them in the last few months. Just not being physically present, and then when he is, just being very snappy with them. Then suddenly, falling all over them with insincere praise and interest in what they are at. But I feel I have to let go of them too. Give him a chance to be with them whatever way he wants to be. Just get out of the house and leave them to it once in a while.
I`m now at the point that if H really decides for sure that he wants to leave then I won`t stop him. But I won`t push him in that direction either(if I can help it!)
Glad you had a talk. Storm Rider talks of it as a window. Just a glimmer of time where you can see their hurt selves. Then they can shut down and back pedal for another while.
