"Whether you realize it or not (oldest daughter) has some issues going on which stem from her upbringing. I blame you for the shitty way you treated her growing up and I blame myself for not getting me and the kids out of the shithole they grew up in any sooner."
"Ok, I understand your concern. I don't want to get into a blame game because that won't solve the problem. I do want to know what you feel is going on with D and how can I help mend things?"
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.