New Post for Wifey

[The Wifey]

I just had an interesting text exchange with H. I told him briefly about the letter and asked what his input was. He told me to consider the hours, benefits, if it would use my talents, and if I would be happy doing it.

I responded that it certainly sounds like a wonderful opportunity, but that I would only take it if it did not interfere with my family. H responded that this is a different time and I should consider it just for myself.

I replied that it is my choice and decision that it not interfere with my family. I'd made those kind of choices in the past and I never would again. My family comes first.

H replied that the bottom line was that it was good money and I should grab it before someone else does. I told him he was so funny. He really just didn't want to exchange any more. : )

Yeah, I know he wasn't funny. But in an interesting funny way he is. Money is not and never has been the biggest motivator to either of us.

It was a big 180 for me to not only come to this realization (I was such an idiot in the past), but to not only say, but follow through on this. He does not know what to do with it.

One of his biggest hurts, and he tries to push that people are just different and can't change. I changed, but not for him. For me, and for my family. H is a part of that, but not all.

I am resolute and I understand so much more than I did in the past. Cognitive dissonance, served up with whipped cream and a cherry anyone?

I think maybe I need to get some icecream.