I think I mentioned that the W's job is temporary - last day today. She gave all the money to "friend".
Tomorrow she'll be back in the pit - actually not - she'll be round at Karens! Hope K reads her the riot act like she did the other day when W complained she hadn't been invited to K's house!
What the heck do I do about paying her some money for support.
I'm seriously thinking about giving W what she asked for LESS the rent for the "friend". The "friend" can send me an invoice just like any other business dealing.
AND I've just had the lady from the maintenance court on the phone. The paperwork is sitting on her desk and she wants to process it. She's been trying to contact my wife to see if she wants to proceed with this. W is not answering the phone. Maintenance lady was told by W to hold on until we have had a meeting. But maintenance lady is now doing the bureaucratic paper shuffle dance.
Just called Karen - told her this sh1t. She asked me to call her later.
Ahhhhhh - bollocks - if it's not one thing it's another.
Do I text W? What the heck am I supposed to do? W is just sitting there in some sort of daze!
We were _supposed_ to have discussed and finalized this over two weeks ago (weekend of the 11th) - didn't rock up. I was waiting in the house a week last Thursday (16th) didn't rock up.
I'm actually getting fed up with this childish "no talking" cr@p. She is talking - she is asking questions and she's f*&^%*g ignoring all the damn advice!
I have a strong feeling you're right Gardener. Just going to sit on it and see what comes of the weekend.
I have a strong feeling I'm going to run into her tonight at the local. Will be my usual charming self.
Let her stew awhile and figure it out on her own...
She chose this path and it is up to her to find her way out of it...
No need for you to pay the rent at "friends" house...
If she has to pay rent, then she needs a more stable job...
Spousal support I see if you are D however you are not...She chose to bail so she needs to think things through and see how she is going to pay her way without using you as a fallback...
I say this because I did the same thing...
I make more then hubby and just yesterday he texted needing money and I am sorry but not gonna happen...
I did what Puppy told me to do and got a new account in my name only...
Why should I pay for him to bang another woman?
Why should I pay for his new life?
Don't have enough money well then either pull your head out of your ass or get another job...
Not my problem (unless I allow it to be)...
Remember this...
"There is only one way to happiness, and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will."
Epictetus
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May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
I have a strong feeling I'm going to run into her tonight at the local.Will be my usual charming self.
I almost dread suggesting this (treading real dangerous ground here, I know) , but. Have you thought about um, er, absenting yourself from the local for a while or occasionally? Y'know, go real dark, mysterious, have her wonder what's up with you, you're not always going to "be there", etc.?
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
I almost dread suggesting this (treading real dangerous ground here, I know) , but. Have you thought about um, er, absenting yourself from the local for a while or occasionally? Y'know, go real dark, mysterious, have her wonder what's up with you, you're not always going to "be there", etc.?
I agree with Gardener 100%...
Make her really think about why you aren't there when she knows that you normally are
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Both - you are both great friends and thank you for the great advice.
F%$k it - the only time anyone thought about the LBS was when I went pitch black.
If my W wants to make this happen by NOT replying to phone calls. BOLLOCKS to her.
I'll be there in court. I'll discuss all the financials (dire that they are) in front of the world. At some point she just has to see that WE can make it financially but NOT if WE are subsidizing someone else's drinking habits (read into this what you like).
I really am starting to think that the OW situation is rearing it's head here!
I intend to have a bloody good weekend.
G - I've only been in the local (or any other place of loose liquor and wild women (or should that be the other way round?)) three times in two weeks.
Ah - f#&k it - dark it is. I'll just wait for the summons and look forward to the 16th if I have to.
She totally agrees that W needs to stop this crud. She'll be seeing W tomorrow and will have a long heart-to-heart. But this is it (she says). She want's to be friends to both of us as she's always said. But after the meeting/party (?) last night she's willing to step up to the line and stand up for us - ONCE. Bring it on K! I feel terrible that she feels that this has happened. I did NOT ask her to intercede. She has made her own decision on this.
K has the same feelings as me - W doesn't have a CLUE what's going on. Floundering like I was weeks ago until I found you lot. And agrees this is just not right. WAKE UP W!
W fighting with the world. Everyone against her (not just me or the sitch she found herself in). Not answering phone when she doesn't recognize the number. Public verbals with "friend". More verbals with greatest friend because she felt left out. Out of a job again. Sitting on A$$ doing nothing as events that she started play themselves out. The list goes on and is getting longer as time passes. At least I'm finding myself not the only person to receive the Wrath of Wife (new Star Trek title there perhaps?)
Ahhhh - bollocks.
If the W she feels she must do this out of what I see now as apathy - bring it on. Christ I feel so sad that she's feeling this way. Nothing I can do except motor on. Show her what a pillar of support I can be irrespective of what comes my way or by whom. Take it on the chin with a smile on my face.
Dogs are fed, fish are fed now it's time to look after me.
And so now off to the cooker to see what a surprise is in store.
Funny thing is that if this had happened a few short weeks ago I'd be in hysterics.
Now - as someone famous here recently said "water of a ducks back".
"W doesn't have a CLUE what's going on. Floundering like I was weeks ago until I found you lot.
W fighting with the world. Everyone against her (not just me or the sitch she found herself in). Not answering phone when she doesn't recognize the number. Public verbals with "friend". More verbals with greatest friend because she felt left out. Out of a job again. Sitting on A$$ doing nothing as events that she started play themselves out. The list goes on and is getting longer as time passes."
, but. Have you thought about um, er,